Birth Parent Letter

Dear Birth Parents,

We would first like to thank you for the decision you have made.   We can’t even begin to understand what this decision process has been like for you. We can’t express how much we respect you for choosing to help our family or another family by supporting adoption.  It really makes us grateful to know there are people who care enough for the baby they created to share it with another family.  You are very special in our minds.  We hope that you are blessed in the endeavors that you are faced with and that you can be blessed during this decision making process.

We are both from the same small town and grew up in the LDS faith.  Our faith is a big part of who we are and the way that we are raising our daughter and future children.  It is great to be able to go to church with our family on Sundays and learn more about Jesus, and things we can do to be closer to him and strengthen our family.  It is also great to have a church family that is always willing to lend a hand when needed. Our own family is very important to us and we are so grateful that we live close enough to family that we get to spend time with them.  Family dinners and other occasion are a common occurrence where we can enjoy one another and the cousins get to play together.

Darcie:

Our greatest desire is to be able to bring another life into our home and our family. To be able to experience the wonderful joy and trials that comes when raising children.  To grow with our children, and learn as much from a sweet child as it will learn from us. Our daughter Callie is always asking when she is going to get a brother or sister, it breaks my heart that we can’t give her the friend she so badly wants to have.     

Brandon and I have never had a hard time getting pregnant.  In fact I love being pregnant more than anything.  I have been pregnant eight times but we have only been able to get one baby here, our miracle that Heavenly Father blessed us with. The other pregnancies resulted in five miscarriages and three still born babies; James and then twin girls Chloe and Sophie.  My body doesn’t allow the nutrients that I take in to get to the babies.  After all the heartache and doctors telling us there isn’t much we can do, we have turned to you for hope that you can help us add to our family.

Through these experiences we have felt our Heavenly Fathers love for us.  We do not understand why we have been chosen to have these trials, and at times we have been very angry, but we know that we have grown from these trials and have made it through them with our Heavenly Father’s help.  We don’t know exactly what happens in the next life but we are hoping and looking forward to raising those babies we have lost in the next life.

We are so grateful for our daughter Callie, she makes every day a delight.  We want so much for her to have a brother to tease and protect her, or a sister to be her best friend.  Every night before bed we kneel with Callie to say prayers and for several years now she has been asking us for a brother or sister, so we have started including that in our prayers.  Callie is six, she loves to dress up, dance, sing, and play with toys.  She has developed a great love for music in the last couple of years, so much so that she got a small mp3 player for her birthday.  She is always listening and singing along to her favorites, especially Justin Bieber whom she has the cutest crush on. She loves to be outside riding her bike, playing on the swings and slide, flying kites, she also enjoys swimming or playing in the water, bowling, and playing with her cousins.  She is also very excited to start Ballet in the fall!

Brandon has a construction management degree that he received from BYU-Idaho.  He is a hard worker and prefers working with his hands building rather than sitting behind a desk. He is always fixing things at the house or adding new things and loves small projects.  Brandon loves to spend time with his family.  Family means everything to him.  He enjoys going camping, hunting, golfing, riding ATV’s, and just loves the outdoors.   He is a wonderful husband and father to Callie and me.  He is my rock and my best friend. I am truly grateful for everything he does to provide and protect us.

Brandon:

Darcie is the love of my life and I can’t imagine my life without her.  We met in high school and even though we never dated much I always had a crush on her.  After high school I left home to serve a mission for the LDS church, we wrote throughout my mission, after I returned home we dated and were soon married.  Darcie loves to read, blog, sew, and take bike rides with the family.  She recently started making hair bows for Callie and is amazing at it. Darcie loves to sing; she is always singing along to the radio and sings in church quite often.  I can tell already that Callie shares her moms love for music, many times I will come home and they are both singing along with the radio or just singing a song together.

Darcie went to a medical and dental health school after high school and became a certified dental assistant.  She worked and helped support the family while I was going through college but is now a stay at home mom.  She loves to spend her day with Callie and has a close bond with her.  She loves having a little girl that she can dress up and do her hair in different designs.  She is really amazing at it, so many cute hairstyles that amaze me.  I tried to do Callie’s hair once, just once.  All I tried was pigtails, and it was a disaster.  One pig tail was really high and the other low and they weren’t tight at all.  Darcie just laughed and laughed, then fixed them.  I think her biggest hope in life is that Callie will be her best friend as she continues to grow up just like Darcie is best friends with her mom.  Darcie loves her mom; she loves to spend time with her and talks to her almost every day.  Our parents both live about an hour away so we get to see them frequently and they can’t get enough of Callie.

Darcie is a good mother, she laughs when I say she is patient because she doesn’t feel like she is, but I know better.  To stay at home all day long with children is very challenging to say the least, I only have to do it once in awhile and that’s enough to stress me out.  She is so amazing with Callie and loves kids.  I’m amazed at the strength she has shown through all our pregnancy trials.  There have been many tear-filled nights, and it would have been easy for her to turn bitter, but it hasn’t shaken her faith one bit.  She is still the loving, caring, supportive, faithful person that I married.       

Darcie is a great mother for Callie and would be for your baby also.  I would be the best father I could be and would love your child as my own.  My most favorite thing in the world is to get a big hug from Callie.  It makes a bad day good and a good day better.  I want more kids to share those hugs with.  I want to take them on camping trips and spend time as a family.  I want to teach them all that I know and help them grow mentally and spiritually.

                Please consider us as you make this ever so important decision.   May Heavenly Father bless you for your decision to help another family.  You and all mothers going through this will be in our prayers.

Thank You

Brandon and Darcie